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10 Ways CBT Can Help You Manage Stress

Writer's picture: Dr. Emma HormozDr. Emma Hormoz
“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn

Stress is an inevitable part of life, whether it’s the looming deadline at work, juggling family responsibilities, or just navigating an increasingly demanding world. While some stress can motivate us to perform better, chronic stress can wreak havoc on our mental and physical well-being. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) offers practical tools to manage stress by changing the way we think, feel, and respond to life’s challenges.


Here are 10 ways CBT can help you regain control and build resilience in the face of stress:


1. Identifying Stress Triggers

CBT begins by helping you understand the root causes of your stress. Often, stress feels like an overwhelming cloud, but pinpointing specific triggers can provide clarity. For instance, you might think your workload is the problem when, in reality, it’s your tendency to procrastinate that’s amplifying the pressure. CBT helps you break down these situations, uncover patterns, and focus on actionable solutions. Recognising your triggers is the first step to regaining control over your stress.


2. Reframing Negative Thoughts

Stress often amplifies negative thinking, creating a vicious cycle of worry and self-doubt. Imagine thinking, “If I don’t complete this task perfectly, I’ll fail, and everyone will think I’m incompetent.” CBT helps you challenge these unhelpful beliefs by examining their accuracy and replacing them with balanced alternatives. For example, “It’s okay if this task isn’t perfect; my effort is what matters most.” This process reduces emotional intensity and equips you to handle challenges with greater confidence.


3. Breaking the Stress-Avoidance Cycle

Avoidance is a common response to stress, but it often makes problems worse. Whether it’s avoiding difficult conversations, skipping tasks, or procrastinating, these behaviours can increase feelings of helplessness. CBT encourages you to face stressors gradually, breaking them into manageable steps. For example, if you’re overwhelmed by emails, CBT might suggest allocating 15-minute slots to tackle them in batches. Overcoming avoidance empowers you to feel proactive and in control.


4. Practising Relaxation Techniques

While CBT is grounded in cognitive strategies, it also incorporates relaxation techniques to address the physical symptoms of stress. Methods like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and visualisation can reduce tension and help you reset. For instance, taking a few moments to practise diaphragmatic breathing during a stressful meeting can help calm your nervous system, making it easier to focus and respond thoughtfully.


5. Developing Problem-Solving Skills

Stress often arises when problems feel insurmountable or complex. CBT provides a structured framework for breaking down challenges into smaller, actionable steps. For instance, if financial worries are causing stress, CBT might guide you through creating a budget, setting priorities, and tackling one expense at a time. By focusing on solutions rather than the enormity of the problem, you regain a sense of control and direction.


6. Challenging Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a significant driver of stress, as the fear of failure can lead to chronic overwork and self-criticism. CBT helps you identify perfectionist tendencies and replace them with healthier beliefs. For example, instead of striving for “flawless,” you learn to aim for “good enough.” This shift can be transformative, as seen in characters like Monica from Friends, whose journey towards balance teaches us that success isn’t about being perfect—it’s about trying our best and learning from mistakes.


7. Managing Physical Symptoms of Stress

Chronic stress often manifests physically, leading to headaches, muscle tension, digestive issues, or fatigue. CBT emphasises the mind-body connection, helping you understand how your thoughts influence these symptoms. For example, recognising that tight shoulders often accompany anxious thoughts allows you to incorporate relaxation exercises like stretching or mindful breathing to alleviate discomfort. This dual approach ensures that both the psychological and physical effects of stress are addressed.


8. Building Healthy Boundaries

Many people struggle with stress because they overcommit or find it difficult to say no. Whether it’s taking on extra work projects or attending every social gathering, lack of boundaries can leave you feeling depleted. CBT helps you recognise the importance of setting limits and provides tools to communicate your needs effectively. For example, learning to say, “I’d love to help, but I need to prioritise other commitments right now,” can reduce stress and protect your energy.


9. Strengthening Emotional Awareness

Stress can often mask deeper emotions like fear, frustration, or sadness. CBT helps you explore these underlying feelings and respond to them constructively. For example, if you’re stressed about a presentation, CBT might reveal that your fear of judgment stems from past experiences. By addressing these emotions, you can approach similar situations with greater clarity and calmness.


10. Creating a Personalised Stress-Management Plan

CBT isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution—it’s tailored to your unique needs and circumstances. A therapist will work with you to develop a personalised plan, incorporating strategies like journaling, mindfulness, and cognitive restructuring. For instance, someone with work-related stress might benefit from scheduling regular breaks and practising gratitude exercises, while another individual might focus on building social support. This customised approach ensures that the tools you learn are relevant and sustainable.


A Real-Life Example

Sophie, a marketing manager, felt overwhelmed by her demanding job and family responsibilities. Her stress was compounded by perfectionism, which made her believe she needed to excel in every area of her life. Through CBT, Sophie learned to identify and challenge these beliefs. She started breaking tasks into smaller steps, reframing negative thoughts, and practising mindfulness to stay present. Over time, Sophie found balance, reduced her stress, and embraced a more compassionate mindset toward herself.


Want to Learn More?

Discover practical steps for emotional resilience in “Overcoming Anxiety with CBT: A Step-by-Step Guide.”


CBT isn’t about eliminating stress entirely—it’s about equipping you with tools to navigate it effectively. By understanding your stressors, challenging unhelpful patterns, and building resilience, you can regain control and lead a more balanced, fulfilling life. Ready to get started? Contact Arcadian Clinic today to learn how CBT can support you.

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